Do Not Get Attached
One of the biggest restrictions in a swinger’s life is to become attached to anyone they encounter in a swinger party. First time swingers may have a problem dealing with this certain rule, but if you’re really up for the guilty pleasure, then you should remove yourself from any emotional equation.
And how exactly do you not get attached? We are all susceptible to the whole falling in love thing and it happens even with the person you expect the least to be. And that only happens when you spend a lot of time with that person maybe in most swinger party. So, my point is: After the session, move on to another and never look back. Or maybe look back, but after you have done swinging with a couple others already, because it gets easier to trail away from emotional attachments when you constantly mix everything in a bottle where you don’t get to pick the exact same candy all the time.
Do Not Get Jealous… Ever!
Don’t get jealous. In a swinger’s life, you are prohibited from it and not because it is one of the seven sins, but because you don’t have the right to be. Being a swinger alone is already against the whole biblical reference of sinfulness with the lust part in it alone, in case you haven’t noticed. Right from the beginning, when you have agreed upon the formalities with your swinger partypartner, you are already declaring the freedom to have “fun” with a partner of another. And therefore, there is the assurance that none of you should be jealous for the fact that you have decided to add more spice into your life by budging in to someone else’s business or letting others get under your pants in their call. With that in mind it is noted that swingers do have a lower divorce rate than monogamous couples.
Swingers And Divorce.
When you get jealous, it’s actually admittance to the profound happiness you are experiencing with the person you have only met in your swinging journey or simply being unfair to your partner, knowing that you can do whatever you want without his or her constant approval. At any rate, you should learn to accustom yourself with the whole “no shades of grey concept,” that everything is black and white. That it can only be good or bad, and that you should only go with it if you are not struggling with the doubt. Either way, it’s a fun and truly spontaneous lifestyle that is really worth the try.
